I just finished reading a fluff piece on Yahoo about body language and how to read the signs to see if your date is interested in you or not. Now, I wasn’t born yesterday and I do know how to read the signs. Ya know…simple stuff like whether she inadvertently touches you while conversing. That would indicate she’s interested. Or if she has her arms folded in front of you? That would indicate she’s guarded and more than likely not into you.
So of course after reading the article, I began to analyze the people and situations in my own life. The problem is that when dealing with escorts, body language and its interpretations can get really complicated. A girl may touch you or lean “in” not because she’s actually interested – but more because her job involves acting – and she knows that giving off the standard “come hither” body language will bring you back to spend more money. Thus, even if you understand body language, you have to suss out the truth when dealing with escorts. And sadly, with pay-by-the-hour ladies, you have to assume it’s fake – unless you relish getting sucked in – and relieved of – all your disposable income!
In my own experience, I can think of three escorts who I know were “into me.” All three had one thing in common. I knew within 10 seconds of meeting them that they were attracted to me. Conversely, I can’t remember ever discovering that an escort was into me when I thought she wasn’t. No surprises there.
It’s those “in between” relationships when you know the girl respects and likes you – but isn’t necessarily feeling you “that way” – that can be difficult to interpret. She likes me – and she wants me to come back. But how much of her positive body language is about real “feelings” for you versus real feelings for your money!
Combine my trust issues from having a father who abandoned me at a young age and the reality that I know escorts’ MO’s…and I’m always inclined to think it’s all a show not related to the girl dreaming about me every night…and shit gets that much more complicated!
Well anyway…I’d advise all consumers to question every “word” of an escort’s body language. More often than not, it’s designed to bring you back again and again. Being naive and living in denial can work to a certain extent. But if you value what’s in your wallet and don’t relish the idea of being used and discarded, you might want to err on the side of caution. It’s not likely that you’ll miss a true sign of affection in the process, and much more likely that you will be relieved of a hunk of cash. Sad but true. Hey you chose to socialize with escorts? Deal with the reality!
Sometimes I think I’d be better off a little more naive than I am. Rose colored glasses and acts of denial have their place. But I’m too old and jaded for that bull shit. You can run that body language stuff on me all day…but I’ll know when it’s real and when it isn’t much more astutely than the next guy. Ah! The defense mechanisms you develop when you deal with escorts. What are ya gonna do?
DISCLAIMER: This is an old entry. It’s been a long time since I paid anybody to have sex with me. And it was a rare occurrence when I did.